Monday, January 31, 2011

Moocher Syndrome

What is a moocher syndrome? Someone who survives off another person's cash/income/generosity. These characters or people believe that they are owed something for nothing. One who even if they have their own money, food, clothes, etc. will still use someone else's first. It does not matter if that person is super-rich, rich, moderate or poor.

Moocher syndrome is also sometimes known as the Gollum Syndrome. Gollum is a character in a film known as the “Lord of the Rings.” He started out as a fairly normal being and was transformed into a hideous monster by his obsession or greed for the ring that could not be quenched. Gollum said things like “We must have the Precious !!!”

One of the original moochers is a character called Wimpy in Popeye who frequently said “I'll gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today.” These people usually take advantage of others generosity, kindness, and call you their “friend” when all they want to do is USE you and ABUSE you, and NEVER LET YOU GO !!! Even if you take care of them when they are sick and unwell, it goes with a thanks which means nothing. For all they are made of is either envious which eventually becomes jealousy. Remember the saying she became so green with jealousy that she became a "green-eyed monster."

These moochers may earn a good money, have a good job/career but they will make it a point that they are tight with cash. If they have possessions, then complain that they are very tight on cash, and need to be paid for house, siblings loan, parents well-being etc. etc. Generally moochers are scroungers who takes advantage of the generosity of others. Once they are done with you or come to a realisation that they can longer get any cash from you, they move on to another person.

Why am I writing such an insignificance or rather a sad and un-encouraging entry...Well, at least I can finally let it out of my system that I have been so daft and unfortunate to encounter such character(s) in my life. These people almost broke my sanity, my health, my relationship with my husband and overall my well being. But that is in the past.

Today, I am alive, well and it is a miracle. I send love for these moocher(s) that have come along in my life. I may not be friends with these people but I give them love nevertheless. I ask God to forgive my anger towards them. I apologise for not being able to forget all these resentments and anger etc. etc.

I hope with God's will that I am able to live a life of happiness, joy, peace, in abundance, ever-giving and forgiving of others regardless of their actions & motive.

Friday, January 7, 2011


Happy New Year everyone. I have been missing in action and my entries have been non-existence for the last two quarters of 2010. I do have reasons and excuses. Enough said.

My main resolution this year is letting go, acceptance and forgiveness. To achieve them I believe I have to combine all my positive and negative thoughts in order to achieve the ultimate healthy thoughts.

According to some, the healthy thinking statement is one that is believable. Hope is the belief that something is attainable. Thus, I must believe that the little inner voice in me more and hopefully more often. The inner voice that is saying possible and attainable. At the same time, I must also accept all the monkey chatters with grace (Note: I refer my ego as 'monkey chatters'). So help me many monkeys chatting away all the time...singing away, all the time...oh well.

Thus, I realise that covering up my negative emotions with positive thoughts is not going to enhance my beliefs. Normally, I do lots of covering up of my negative thoughts as sadness, unhappiness, frustrations, disappointments by affirmations of positive words. This approach almost always makes me feel better but only on a short term basis.

So, I have decided on a rather challenging approach and that is to change my thought process in order to heal my inner self. The first step is to recognise all the negative thought process that keeps popping up like Windows pop-up in my head. I am not saying that I am accepting these negative thoughts but recognising it/them as a way of letting it be. Recognising helps in changing my thought process and healing my inner self to change my beliefs for the better. The last couple of months I have met some people whom were supportive and helpful in my quest of having achieving healthy thoughts regularly.

I must say I have a long way to go but at least I have begun on a healing journey. And the best part is that my body believes in it. My mind accepts it and I am a much happier person than what I used to be.

I hope for a new and continuous healthy beliefs which can enable me to move forward for the better, become a wiser person, being more compassionate and tolerant towards others.


Thursday, June 24, 2010

Secret, sacred..neither

There has been a lot of controversy over the last few years as to whether Reiki healing symbols should be secret, sacred or neither.

At one time, all the symbols were kept secret to the extent that the Master/teacher told the students to memorise them and destroy any written images of them.

My teacher/master do not feel that they should be secret. It makes no more sense for her to hide the symbols than it would to hide a cross, or a Hold Grail (if already found) or an APPLE logo.

A symbol *stands for* something. It is not the 'something' itself. Even if it was, universal life force energy is already everywhere... how do you hide that???

As for sacred, according to my teacher/master (Note: She heard it from another person but could not remember whom though):

"I believe in nothing, everything is sacred; I believe in everything, nothing is sacred." Sacred is, I believe, in the eyes of the beholder. And for me, I love to share and glorify sacred things by showing them."

My master/teacher only share the versions of the symbols given to her by teachers who share his/her views. She also organises regular workshops for her students(Note: Unfortunately, she is based in India). In her workshop, she shares many, many other methods and symbols with her students. How I wish I could beam myself to be in her workshop in a blink! Sigh!

According to my master/teacher, ultimately, healing is always up to the energy and the client, regardless of the practitioner's actions or lack thereof. The intent is important. If any Reiki symbols is used for bad intent then it will NOT work. Reiki is all about good intent.

Reiki can only be given with a positive intent. No one wants the bad Karma. It helps to release the negative energy trapped by the body on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level.

Note: I have nothing against those masters/teachers who teaches students to keep learning method and symbols a secret. However, I sincerely feel these teachers are 'old-school' and very typical old-fashioned. They probably live in so much fear that their mind is so closed to be open. Only when you go to them, then you get the knowledge (maybe some and not all). That is why lots of valuable knowledge from the East dies with its master/teacher. Nothing in written format. Sigh!

Friday, June 11, 2010

Giving & Receiving

Giving allows others to receive. Receiving allows others to give. It is a circle, a cycle, a continuum.

It simply means that if you wish for something, and instead of expecting the receiving end, be the GIVER. Let go unpleasant emotions such as selfish, anger, annoyance, sadness, reckless & childish and somewhat erratic behaviour etc. etc.

If you want to be happy, do not seek for it. For happiness comes within. Seek inner peace. Forgive yourself, forgive others without any condition & resentment and seek spiritual rejuvenation for your soul. When the soul is truly happy and full of joy, even the most deadly disease will cease to exist. It is that simple.

When you give, give your all in good faith without any expectation, for the Universe will repay you. It is all about the energy.

You can choose to break the circle or to keep the energy flowing.

Instead of seeking others for comfort, meaningful relationship, conversation etc. etc., be humble and do the opposite. Give your time to people, to friends and do it with good faith though.

Get out of your comfort zone whether you are introvert, semi-introvert, extrovert, extreme-extrovert...Stop the sour-face, sad-face, long-face, face-in-pain and subtle & deadly resentment. Start giving your time to others even when adversity is hammering on your face.

Ask yourself, when was the last time you actually gave a hood about someone who cared about you, your health and well-being or someone who just made your day when needed most or when you were down, ill, in-pain, in-confusion, in-trouble etc. He or she may not be your best pal but nevertheless kind in nature and were there when needed most.

When one takes the other for granted, the universe does the same. When you take, you must give with complete honesty, compassion, joy, love and good-faith. The other person must feel and believe that you are doing so with such a manner too. You can lie or pretend to a person(s) but not to the universe and your inner-self.

Here's what the Dalai Lama says:-

“As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery… we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.”

Last but not least have inner peace, happiness, do good, give others your time as well and may the universe & the almighty God pour upon his blessings unto you.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010


My Wednesdays are on of the best day in the week. So far, it has been a ritual of going out with a friend.

The friendship with this friend developed in stages. First she was a stranger, then an acquaintance, then a casual friend, a neighbour and eventually we became good buddies/friends. It is also great that we both make an effort to make time for each other to meet up and update each-other. So, I really look forward for our weekly meet. Good friend(s) are hard to come by and I cherish the very few I have.

We both may be of different religion & background but we sure do share one religion on matters concerning spirituality, compassion, inner-peace and dogs :)

Today, we had long planned to get my new saree blouse fixed (Note: Gosh, my hubby's eye is going to pop-out when he sees me in it...wink, wink! My father-in-law definitely need his sun-glasses on when he sees me in it :P). We went to see one of the best Indian tailor in town (located in Wilayah complex). The tailor's name is Vincent. He is artistic, good in his work and darn expensive.

After the we headed to Royal Selangor club for lunch with another friend whom I met for the first time. Let's just refer to this new friend as A. So sad, A's husband just passed away couple months ago. She's got three girls. The eldest two in college and the youngest being nine years. Her husband died due to cancer (relapse, 4th stage of prostate cancer and also tumour in the head.....) He hubby was only 54 years of age when he died!

A has many friends but not one is free to listen or just have a decent conversation...Poor woman is in grieving stage and no one to speak to until today.

Though I didn't get to do my many other more important errands that I had scheduled for, I am truly happy and at peace and grateful that I had the opportunity to be there for a complete stranger in need (well, she is a friend now). All three of us had lovely lunch and one of the best teh-tarik kurang manis in town! Of course my diet 'kaput'/busted! Oh well... I hope to see her again sometime soon.

My day is truly complete even though I am down with a bad sore-throat and building up a fever too... Giving A a good hug too feels good.

I am far from perfect but by being a giver feels as good as being a receiver too.

Last but not least, I end today's entry with this quote:-

“Do not stand on a high pedestal and take 5 cents in your hand and say, "here, my poor man", but be grateful that the poor man is there, so by making a gift to him you are able to help yourself. It is not the receiver that is blessed, but it is the giver. Be thankful that you are allowed to exercise your power of benevolence and mercy in the world, and thus become pure and perfect.” ~ by Swami Vivekananda quotes (Indian Spiritual leader of the Hindu religion (Vedanta). Disciple of the famous 19th century mystic-saint Sri Ramakrishna of Calcutta. Founder of the Ramakrishna Order of Monks. 1863-1902)

Sunday, May 9, 2010

A Mother's Love

This poem is by Helen Steiner Rice. Dedicated to all mothers.

A Mother's love is something
that no one can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . .
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.


Dear Mommy,

Thank you for your kindness
Thank you for your compassion
Thank you for your caring
Thank you for your prayers
Thank you for feeding
Thank you for cooking
Thank you for teaching about the good, bad & ugly
AND above all
Thank you for your unconditional love & believing in me

Of all my crystals & jewellery pieces that I own, mommy dearest, you are the rarest gem in the world and no amount of wealth/money can replace you.

Happy mother's day.

Love, hugs and kisses